Saying yes to the unexpected

Patricia Madson is the author of a little book containing big ideas. “Improv Wisdom” involves approaching life with a willingness to pay attention to whatever life presents, and to say yes to the unexpected, learning to overcome the harsh inner critic and making new connections. She says,

“Yes can be a really good answer more of the time than you might imagine. It can open up a possibility. It’s easy to say no. No doesn’t require us to act. Saying yes can get us into trouble, but it’s just as likely to bring us great adventures.”

Madson finds when we throw out many of the self-inhibiting regulations we thought we must live by, we’ll find our lives more authentic, more effective, and a lot more fun. We have adopted a malfunctional way called blocking we hardly question, so we not only block others, but ourselves in the process.

Here are some excerpts of Madson’s Yes Principles:

“Cultivate all the ways you can imagine to express affirmation.”

“Yes and” …we can say yes than we normally do.

“Once you become aware you can, you will see how often we use the technique of blocking in personal relationships simply out of habit.”

“Support someone else’s dreams. Pick a person and for a week, agree with all of his or her ideas. Find something right about everything he or she does or says. Look for every opportunity to find support.”

“As we practice the affirmative response to life, positive things happen.”

“Exercising the yes muscle builds optimism. If you can’t get out of it, get into it.”

“Improv means advancing the struggle for more inclusive frameworks of understanding.”

~ vincenzo ©

Reference: Madson, Patricia Ryan Improv Wisdom, Bell Tower Publishing, New York 2005